A friendly rider called her male friend today in the back of my car; I say (male friend) not (boyfriend) because of what I heard next. She flat out asks him, “Hey, I want to go out on a date night” I believe he replied, “what!” she said, “yeah, I want to go on a date night; we don’t have to be in a relationship.” “I just want to dress up, go out to a cute restaurant, take some pictures, and have one of the fun nights,” she says to him.
I can’t even imagine the look on his face at the time.
The rider goes, ” I don’t work on weekends, and during the week I work in the lounge ( some context is missing here because, unfortunately, I can’t hear what he is saying). I leave at 1:00 AM every night pretty drunk”. He says something, then she goes, ” yeah, I just want to get some pictures to keep people’s minds wondering. “Who is she out with? is she in a relationship? where did they go? and stuff like that,” she says.
I don’t know what he said, but I believe he is younger than her, and there is a family connection too because she laughs and says, “yeah, your Mama gonna kill me,” and laughs loudly. Then she mentions people’s opinions on social media again this night to be and how excited she already feels just thinking about what they might say. She complained a bit about how her other friends are bluffing and not enthusiastic about her pitch. She then tells him that he is on top of the list, maybe to make him feel better about himself and what he is about to do.
She was a lovely girl, and I promise I’m not judging her here, but to care so much about people’s opinions! Enough to fake a date night just to take pictures and post them. To not require a relationship and start reaching out to family friends and tell them they are on top of a list after mentioning casually that other friends turned her down on this request. All of this is very desperate to the level that made me sad, and I decided to write about it today. I totally understand how lonely she feels, and I genuinely wish she finds someone who loves her for who she is. Still, my concern here is where the construct of the relationship going?
ABZU 